A GPS for Marriage & Relationships
Helping You Find Your Way
Many clients who see me for relationship, marriage therapy, or couples counseling have waited a long time to seek therapy. They have tried to work things out on their own with little success.
Others recognize issues at any earlier point and want to improve the relationship before it gets to that point.
A relationship tune up.
All marriages and long term relationships hit speed bumps and hurdles.
Having a long term marriage myself I understand what it’s like to bounce back and bounce forward from challenges.
It’s just not possible to have a committed relationship without going through tough times.
That’s why the traditional marriage vows say “for better or worse”. Worse is assumed. Yes, I said that. Tough times will occur. It can be temporary or intermittent.
We don’t need to get stuck there.
I get it.
Many couples I see for marriage therapy have children under the age of 5. They may be are hitting their first serious hurdles in marriage. Some are blended families.
Other couples have been together a very long time.
They may be launching kids, are empty nesters, or find themselves struggling with how relationships work, or don’t work, later in life.
Many couples seek counseling even though they have a solid foundation because recent stressors with work-life balance, in-laws, parent’s illness or death, challenging transitions, career changes, parenting, all add stress on their relationships.
When couples hit these low points its easy to feel hopeless. To assume the situation or current frustrations or lack of connection are permanent.
That may not be the case at all.
Couples oftentimes get caught in negative cycles, which interfere with communicating effectively or resolving disagreements. Therapy focuses on identifying and unraveling the feelings, thoughts and behaviors that underlie couples’ ineffective cycles.
In so doing, we are better able to hear and understand each other and then shift and deepen our connection and develop more constructive and healthier interactions.
These more positive dynamics and effective communications between partners restore hope and help create a more safe, connected and secure relationship.
They never gave us a manual on how to have a healthy, long term relationship or marriage.
Where’s the GPS for relationships?
As your marriage counselor or couples, pre-marital, or individual counselor I can build on your strengths and help you to get unstuck from unhelpful patterns.
- Communication problems, blaming, irritability, criticism, conflict over the same issues again and again
- Feeling disconnected; drifting apart; like room mates
- Trust, commitment, or intimacy challenges
- Frustrated over extended family, in-laws, finances, work-life balance, differences, stressors, parenting, chores ?
There is hope. See marriage map.
Marriage counseling or couples therapy can help you deal with differences.
Restore the positive things that brought you together in the first place.
If you want to have a better relationship, you can. Regardless of your past, or parents, or a “challenging” partner.
If you’re tired of going around in circles, marriage counseling can help.
While there are no quick fixes, I can offer you practical and effective tools for change.
With your commitment and right kind of effort together, you can once more be close and caring.
Stop worrying about your marriage or relationship. Learn to feel good about it again.
Yes, marriage therapy or couples counseling can be hard work for awhile. The rewards are worth it.
Your Next Steps:
Call (215) 802-6521 or firstname.lastname@example.org or click on the Let’s Get Started button to book a session or for a no charge 10 min. phone consult to answer your questions about marriage counseling, couples therapy, or individual relationship coaching and to learn if I’m the right fit for you.
Deb Owens is a Marriage Therapist and Couples Counselor serving Blue Bell, Dresher, Jenkintown, Rydal, Lafayette Hill, Elkins Park, Wyncote, Fort Washington, PA. Her counseling suite in Chestnut Hill is located within one block of SEPTA and regional train from Center City Philadelphia.