How Change in Therapy can be Sticky (or not) Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about stories and storytelling. As a therapist I’m often amazed at how the same story can be a story of resilience for some and a story of defeat for others. I’ve noticed how many times a story from childhood or [...]
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A Marriage Therapist’s Fire Place When conducting marriage therapy I hear a lot of hopelessness. Couples hitting tough patches in their relationship. Wondering if it's too late. Questioning if it can get better with marriage counseling. Sometimes, there’s an expectation that they cannot turn things around. They've been pulled into a vortex of negativity. FLIGHT [...]
Was it a decade ago when I first noticed someone talking on a cell while in the chair lift line at a ski resort? It was new then. A surprise. People noticed. There was even a little head shaking. A couple of years went by and phones were everywhere. Still, there were a few preserves, [...]
Something has changed. Perhaps men are more willing to ask for coaching, counseling, or a consultation or women are more independent or just plain “fed up”. When I started doing Relationship Coaching and Marriage Counseling in Chestnut Hill, PA, the norm was that wives dragged their husbands to couples therapy or marriage counseling. Over the [...]
Yes, I said it. I have a top 9 for ACOAs. We’ve all seen some variation of characteristics that are correlated with growing up in a household affected, directly or indirectly, by a parent’s use of alcohol or drugs. Common ACOA traits include: Adult children of alcoholics judge themselves fiercely They may constantly seek approval [...]
The Counseling Process Everyone experiences challenges in life. You are not crazy to seek out counseling or personal coaching. The opposite is true. Successful human beings recognize when it’s time to take advantage of quality therapy resources to get their life or relationship back on track. As a Chestnut Hill, PA Counselor, many [...]
Substance Use Disorders & PARENTS: Paths to Change "It’s a hero’s journey when your life and relationships are impacted by a child’s substance use disorder. And impacted they are. In ways that are unimaginable. A roller coaster of emotions." Deb Owens Parents long for a healthy loving relationship with their child. It’s so hard to [...]
Mindfulness Mindfulness is defined as a state of active, open attention on the PRESENT. Mindfulness brings greater peace and calmness while helping us better manage stressor, improve our mood, be more present in parenting, reduce cravings. When you practice mindfulness, as it is a practice that takes practice, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without [...]
New therapists or those hoping to leave managed care and create a full fee private practice often struggle. They want to move forward. To take a leap. Like being on a trapeze. You see the next swing lying in wait for you. You notice and study it. All that you need to do is [...]
Relationships & Blaming As a counselor who specializes in relationships I’ve been thinking lately about patterns. One of the cycles we sometimes experience in our relationships is BLAME. Blame can rear its head in relationships with partners, children, siblings, and in our role as parents or in relation to our own parents. I hear it [...]